Old news, but I had a bone to pick with Jimmy Chen's post about Zelda Fitzgerald over at HTML Giant, a blog I see curated almost exclusively and unapologetically as a boy's club.
I won't replay the whole argument here, but what lingers for me is a sense of being dismissed for being serious/snarky, receiving a "fuck you," and also being asked why I have a sexy picture of myself on my blog. The reactions to my comments are exactly the kind of sly (or not so), sexist remarks made about Zelda that I was calling attention to in the first place. Would I be saying the same things if the post was about Norman Mailer? No. Am I upset because Zelda is a woman and I am also a woman? Um, yes.
The sociopathic comments reach a new low here:
"the real issue here is you feel devalued. obviously, this would not have been a big deal if the 32 year old mexican mom working the bathrooms at wendy’s had been depicted instead of the ?special? literary figure “zelda”..
you wouldn’t even have batted an eye if jimmy attacked that lady.
but YOUR identity was attacked because YOU felt devalued by jimmy’s carefree dismissal of someone YOU respected.
Really? You're right. I hate 32 year old Mexican moms, too, I think we should all talk shit about them all the time because it's not like I have anything else to do, like teach their children through a Y program that's government-funded. Oh wait. When did this become a class thing? Zelda is a famous woman, a famous literary woman, on a blog "about" literature, and it isn't fair to reduce her to a picture of her body. It isn't fair to reduce me to a picture of my face. What picture should I post of my face? Should I look uglier? Should I wear a mustache? How can I prevent my radiating sexiness from compromising my hard-headed opinions?
Matt says some people need to lighten up, some people need to lighten down and I assume he means me lightening up. Attention dudes: pick a fucking side and have an opinion about something. Ambivalence is unsexy. Maybe if you stood up for women you'd get laid more often.